Most of us REALLY dislike change. I believe we humans are somewhat hardwired to seek pleasaure and avoid pain, and change can certainly be painful sometimes. So why change?
If you are brave enough to listen to that little voice inside your head telling you that something’s not right, then it is time for a change. Perhaps your career is going nowhere, perhaps you are starting to experience ill health because of weight gain, or perhaps you have finally had enough of “just getting by.”
Carolyn Myss, an author and teacher of intuition workshops, says that “our biography becomes our biology.” That is, if we betray ourselves by not listening to that little voice, our bodies will register that betrayal. Have you ever worked at a job you hated or for someone you didn’t respect? You probably got headaches or back pain. When we ignore our instincts or refuse to listen to our hearts, we get in trouble.
Myss goes on to say, “As long as you stay confused and decide that you have no idea what choice to make, you are actually trying to manage the speed of change because you don’t want change to happen.” In other words, you indecision is really your decision.
If your little voice is telling you that you need to make a change, then you need to trust that it is true. Trusting yourself can be intimidating, I know. But ask yourself if you are afraid of following your intuition simply because of the changes that will come in your life.
Consider NOT hating that which is difficult. Embrace the difficult. Billie Jean King once said that “pressure is privilege.” Tackle the hard things, and find out what you are made of. It is very likely to be stronger stuff than you ever imagined.
Aimee
Hiya Aimee.
There is a quote I came across a few months ago. I think it goes quite nicely with your post here.
“It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful. There is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in movement there is life, and in change there is power.”
– Alan Cohen
My little voice has been getting louder as of late.
Good luck with your blog.
Henry, I love that quote! It is perfect! And I hear ya on the voice getting louder. . . . Me too!
Aimee
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Aimee,
This is very insightful. I am glad to see you are chasing your dream.
Elden, great to hear from you! Thank you for the kind words! Dream-chasing is indeed in progress!
Hope you are well,
Aimee
Thanks Aimee 🙂
Interestingly, Pema Chodron views change as subtle aggression against ourselves and suggests we wonder who we are rather than who we should be. It’s hard to be healthy and decisive – to be dialed into that voice that knows exactly what we need – when we’re constantly fighting what we think is so wrong with us!
She says: “Our wisdom is all mixed up with what we call our neurosis. Our brilliance, our juiciness, our spiciness, is all mixed up with our craziness and our confusion, and therefore it doesn’t do any good to try to get rid of our so-called negative aspects, because in that process we also get rid of our basic wonderfulness.”
LOVE your blog, your wisdom, your wonder, and you 🙂
Jen
Jen, this is wonderful! I would love for this blog to be a “salon,” a place where we can share ideas from all philosophies and all cultures, including pop culture. Thank you for sharing this perspective!
Love you right back,
Aimee
Hi Aimee:
I found your blog from your email you sent to me…
I was reading your article entitled “Is it Time for a Change?”
This reminded me of the poster hanging in our bathroom entitled:
The World is Our Classroom- I’ve learned that….
In particular at the end of the poster it states:
“…I’ve learned that we grow only when we push ourselves beyond what we already know.
I’ve learned never to underestimate the potential and power of the human spirit.
I’ve learned that everyone has something to teach. “
I try to live by these phrases because “doing life alone” is very narrow-minded. Whereas if we are open-minded and move beyond our comfort zone and utilize all of the people and opportunities we come in contact every day, there is no limit to what we can achieve.
Alan Walter
Hey Alan! Thanks for the thoughtful comments! I especially like the line from the poster about everyone having something to teach. Open-mindedness is always welcomed here!
Aimee