Why are some of us so powerfully drawn to pursue perfection, while others couldn’t give a rat’s patoot? Is it a particular upbringing that makes some people so driven? Or do some people just have an innate call to seek exactness and purity?
Sometimes I wonder if some people are just more “yang” and some are more “yin.” And I wonder if those with more yang are just yearning for a return to the heavens, or spiritual perfection. Maybe the messiness and struggle and imperfection of physical existence is too much to bear.
Striving for perfection, though, can cause us to miss the beauty of “lessons learned” and the satisfaction of overcoming an obstacle. I know some people who will quit if they can’t be perfect, and some people who will tear themselves down for failing to reach perfection. I’ve certainly been guilty of beating myself up for not reaching a goal or standard. I’ve even carried that guilt around for years when it comes to certain issues.
But maybe we should remember the yin-yang symbol, in which the white section has a bit of black and the black section has a bit of white. And maybe we should remember that yin cannot exist without yang and vice versa. They are complementary and interdependent.
Maybe we can strive for excellence, and leave behind the pain of perfection. Fruitlessly pursuing something that is not even possible seems to be a waste of time and denies us the joy of learning.